Category Archives: Life Lessons

Why I do Youtube without caring about the money.

I recently started doing Youtube which you would know if you read my blog or followed me on social media.  The one thing you may not know is WHY??? Here are my top reasons for doing Youtube, its not just about you, no offense.

  • Quality time – I get to spend so much quality time with my son.  He does all my editing, and camera work except for the vlogs.  He even helps to schedule the actual shoots using a shared whiteboard.  He has plans to eventually move from behind the camera to in front.  These are memories that both of us are making that can’t be replaced.
  • Money – Nope, not what you think.  I have zero aspirations of earning a living by doing Youtube.  I know many people that do and thats awesome they are doing it.  Our goal is to donate 100% of everything we earn.  We have not decided who to donate to but, are leaning towards buying a few meals for some of the homeless that live around us.  Another charity would be for an animal shelter.  I plan on sharing exactly what we are doing at the end of this year with all money we made and will video the experience for you to see.
  • Friends – Since starting, I have made an incredible set of individuals.   I firmly believe that in life, people you know touch your life in some way.  Some good, some bad but either way, there is connection.  In particular, one new person I have been talking with is a Youtuber, called DaymDrops the more we talk, the more I really think we are cut from the same mold and believe in the same life choices/directions.
  • Kids – Eventually I plan on doing something similar to what Daym does which is called Real Talk.  This is more for my kids to know what I would say or think.  This is a tough one to explain in a blog post…

In closing, check my videos out, subscribe and watch knowing you are helping people less fortunate.    Our Channel

My visit with 2 Youtubers

In December I had 2 Youtubers for a visit to do a special “mini” episode for a major network.  It was refreshing to have a different view and I learned so many new things during their visit.  Josh and Cody are two tremendous people that I am happy to now call my friend.  During the trip, we spent time at an abandoned factory and  we took a trip to Disney’s Magic Kingdom (for the fun stuff).  Here is Cody’s vlog from the Magic Kingdom LINK

The first thing that I found odd but now find awesome and liberating is when we went to Disney, they were recording for their vlog.  People looked at us oddly but once I got used to it, the stares had zero impact on me.  I have now started my own Youtube channel and doing a mix of a vlog and other content.

My older son, like most kids, loves Youtube.  Being able to meet people he watched was amazing.  He came with us during all video shooting and even used the cameras at time.  He and I are now bonding over doing our own channel and he works the camera and does all the editing.  Its nice to bond with a teenager over something that he has a passion about and enjoys doing.

Even as we get older, we need to remember we do not have all the answers.  We must remain open to learn new ideas and concepts.  If we close our mind and shelter it, we can never grow beyond the boundaries we set for ourselves.  Thanks to Josh and Cody, I have extended my boundaries a little more.

Be good to yourself and each other.

Exploring with Josh
Cody Buffinton
My Youtube Channel

Define Your New Peak

My last post I did was about 4 months ago where I was talking about what to do once you hit what you define as a peak.  Obviously reaching that peak does not mean you just coast because you will coast right down the peak and getting back up becomes that much more difficult.

For me, I am unable to just rest, or coast for that matter.  I needed to keep growing, needed to continue to grow as a person, father, husband, and friend.  The last 4 months have been incredible, here is a recap, which I will fill with more details in the following posts:

  • Played host to 2 incredible YouTubers who taught me a ton of new stuff that I plan on using in my everyday life.
  • Enjoyed the stressful holidays, why do we make holidays so stressful?
  • Made a personal health change to live a better lifestyle.
  • Connected with several big YouTubers, this is exciting.
  • Filmed a pilot TV episode for a major studio, unfortunately, it needs work.
  • Started a YouTube channel, realized its much harder than most people think and the first video had tons of mistakes and issues.  Its all about learning though.
  • Working to donate 100% of everything the YouTube channel brings in to a veterans charity in honor of my grandfather.  Still working out details with them before I announce which charity.

I will update early next week with the next blog post.   In the mean time and always, be good to yourself and each other.

Reached the peak?

What does someone do once they climb Everest? What is the next challenge that would not seem small or trivial?  I am really curious about this.

Let me first say that no matter how good someone is, there is always a better version of them.  Its what makes us constantly reach for higher goals.

What are you supposed to do once you have hit the peak of what you do?  When I say the peak, I mean, there is no one better than you and every challenge you had you conquered.  This post is not meant to be cocky in any way, but just the opposite.  The system I built has been destroying piracy and the pirates really have no where to hide on Usenet.  It has taken many years to finally hit this peak but we have achieved it, and planted our flag.

I love what I do, I love the cat and mouse game that dealing with anti-piracy constantly gives.  I just seem to be in a “what next” type phase where I am trying to figure out another anti-piracy ecosystem I want the team to look into.  We do so many different things already but I want to achieve the peak with another ecosystem.  A few clients have said, “Do not lose focus on what you are great at”.  I have no intention of slowing development on our specialty, just looking for another pool to dip our feet into.

I guess what I am saying is being an entrepreneur I always have this unfulfilled feeling.  Like my work is never done.  When someone explains a process to me, mentally, my mind is going 10k MPH where I am reducing their process to the bare bones and then restructuring it in a more efficient way.   Sometimes I feel like I am cursed as my mind never stops running, but other times, I also recognize that my OCD’s and ADD has given me the skills to succeed.

Lastly, I promise, I will write more on a more regular basis.  I am starting to look into doing  youtube channel as well eventually..

Fear Vs Danger

This is part 2 to my previous blog post

I wanted to cover my feelings on this topic relating to business.  These are just my opinions obviously.

Fear is made up.  My son has to do book reports and different things where he has to stand up in front of the class.  He has really bad panic attacks.  I used to be like that.  I did not like standing up in front of people and speaking.  I much rather prefer sitting in a darkened office, doing code work or project planning.  The absolute worst thing that will happen is you will die.  Yes its a bit of a stretch but once you realize the absolute worst, scale it back, you can cope with it.  When I do a meeting, I am not afraid of hearing a no, or failing.  I look at the positive, I made a connection and met some nice people.

With Fear, it can’t hurt you.  Danger can.  The fear of jumping from a plane will no hurt you, but the danger of going splat will.   You can’t let fear control your life, get out there, get busy, meet people, talk to them, make that connection.  You might be surprised that the fear you had was holding you back from becoming extraordinary.  We all have greatness in us, its how we chose to channel the fuel that fires us up.

To sum it up, do not be afraid of the fear, however, be aware of the danger.

Be good to yourself and others…

Fear is not real, it is a product of your thoughts…

I was reading my daily list of sites and a post caught my eye.  It was 9 quotes by Will Smith.   The first quote was:
Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.

Why did this catch my eye? I read this on a Tuesday and on Wednesday I was going somewhere with my son who wanted to zipline.  Me being the baby I am, am completely terrified of heights.   However, he wanted to zipline and I love doing things with my kids so I agreed to do it.  I could not let my fear ruin his enjoyment.  In my head, I just kept thinking of this quote and it really stood out.  As I leaned off the edge of the platform and looked down at the alligators I would be soaring above, I just let go.  No fear, its not real dammit… Next thing I remember was just soaring down the zipline and having a great time.  The question is, can I conquer my  next fear which would be jumping from a perfectly good plane.

I think with business, this same thinking comes into play.  Lets say you are doing your first startup but also working a 9-5 job.  It can be quite scary walking from the safety net of the 9-5 but don’t let the fear get in your way.  The danger of not paying your bills is a real danger but the fear of not being able to make it is not.  They should be treated differently and not combined.   Next blog post I will break the two down.

Thanks for reading, be good to yourself and each other!

Being an entrepreneur and having a family

I knew I would write about this at some point, I honestly thought it would be a topic I would hit towards the end of the year, however, I just felt this was the write (pun?) time for this topic.  This is a pretty personal topic for me.

One of the hardest things I cope with as being an entrepreneur is balancing family. By family, I mean spouse and kids or relationships in general.

Early in my career I failed as a husband, I hate to admit failure but I think anytime you learn something from that mistake it was not a total loss.  So there, I said it, I failed as a husband.  I failed because I did not know how to turn off the business part of me and turn on the family part of me.  Often I would spend 15-18 hours a day in my office doing code work, project management or some other task that really could have waited till tomorrow.

Luckily for me, my wife, while not happy did reluctantly understand but often let me know exactly how annoying it was.  We worked through it and I have learned that there is a tomorrow and if there isn’t a tomorrow, then would you rather have your arse in the chair doing code work or spend that time with the people you care about?

Yes, you absolutely have to work on your business, but do not overlook the business of handling your family.

Everyone needs someone to talk to about what you are doing, where you are going, and how you will get there.  My wife and I talk almost nightly regarding the business, well, mainly I talk and she listens.  However, that listening is such a tremendous help for me, it transforms my day into something magical (used without the permission of Disney).  As I continue to write, one topic is the often ups and downs or rollercoaster feelings you have as you do a start up.  My wife is the center point for me.  She keeps me balanced, and handles all the family things, like doctor appointments for the kids.  Without the understanding of my wife, I 100% believe we would not be succeeding.

How did I overcome this?  I hired a few people to help with the day to day stuff so I can concentrate on steering the ship.  I am fortunate that I am able to have a few people that I trust and have the skills I am looking for.

This blog post is dedicated to my wife and life partner on this journey.  Thank you for being sun in my solar system.

Be good to yourself and the ones you love, till next blog post… out

Luck, does it exist to you?

I play poker, let me clarify, I play A LOT of poker.  After I tell people that, I get 2 reactions, that’s great or oh, I don’t gamble.  So today I will examine both of those reactions and how I relate poker to life.

I will say I do not believe in luck the way most people do.  I have started several companies that were successful, as well as some that have tanked shortly after starting.  I have sold a few and also went into partnerships with others.   This was not luck that what I accomplished, it was me being me and having a skill or talent.  It pisses me off when someone says what I have accomplished during my life that it was luck.  I like to believe that I create my own luck, not ride the wave of “luck”.

So back to poker, I look at life the same way I play poker, hyper aggressive.  The idea of poker is not to just throw all your chips into the center and hope for “luck” to help you.  When I play, I sit for 12 hours, I study every play, I am 2 steps ahead of them.  That is why I love the game, its the mental aspect.  Some people get upset when they feel they are entitled to win because they had the best hand at that moment and then someone hits the one card to beat them.  That sounds like luck, however, the person that drew out may have thought they winning the hand with what they already had.

Poker mimics life in that you should strive to put yourself into the best position that you have.  That sometimes means you fold what others would think is the best hand and to listen to them say, “omg, I can’t believe you folded that” only to see you made the right call at the right moment.

Live your life on the edge, safe is for the weak, be aggressive.  If that takes you out of your normal routine, then so be it.  Try something new and make your own luck and go all in once and awhile.  I would love to hear what others think about luck, feel free to email me or leave a silly comment.

Be positive and love yourself

I have worked with a few people on life coaching and worked them through some very tough times.  I do it on occasion but only when asked and never for profit.

One thing that I always find strange is negativity.  There are 3 times of people in my opinion:

1. People that are naturally negative about almost everything
These are people that would win the lottery and then complain they have to pay tax’s on it.
2. People that are naturally positive  about almost everything
These are people that would goto the doctor and get some very bad news, but come out of it and say, well, atleast I have another year to live.
3. People that have ups and downs
Personally, I think most of the population fits into this slot, or atleast its what I would like to believe.

I fit into #2.  I am always happy and always positive.  I wake up with a smile on my face and am happy to get an early start.  I am unable to understand #1 and when I encounter them, I try my best to get them to see the positivity in their life.

Look at everything you have, yes, most have more than you, but so what.  If you look at your neighbor who just bought a new car and you can’t afford one, why get negative.  You have no idea what else that person has on their plate.  Could they be sick, or have a sick family member? Could they be buying the car now because they know in a month they will be laid off?

Life is all about variables, it is constantly changing.  Stop focusing on what others have as a way to gauge your own happiness.  Look within yourself to find happiness.  A new material item is a very short experience that you will find happiness in.  Other people or items augment your own feelings.  Another person/spouse is not going to change you from a type 1 to a type 2, only you can do that.

The world needs a change, but change from within yourself and people around you will notice and change with you.

In a previous job, I had a boss who, like everyone thinks is full of hot air.  It was not until a year or two of leaving that job that I realized I had just worked with one of the wisest people I have ever met.  One of the many things that he taught me was that people will change, but slowly.

A site that I really enjoy wrote something about positive people:
http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2013/10/16/7-habits-of-highly-positive-people