Being an entrepreneur and having a family

I knew I would write about this at some point, I honestly thought it would be a topic I would hit towards the end of the year, however, I just felt this was the write (pun?) time for this topic.  This is a pretty personal topic for me.

One of the hardest things I cope with as being an entrepreneur is balancing family. By family, I mean spouse and kids or relationships in general.

Early in my career I failed as a husband, I hate to admit failure but I think anytime you learn something from that mistake it was not a total loss.  So there, I said it, I failed as a husband.  I failed because I did not know how to turn off the business part of me and turn on the family part of me.  Often I would spend 15-18 hours a day in my office doing code work, project management or some other task that really could have waited till tomorrow.

Luckily for me, my wife, while not happy did reluctantly understand but often let me know exactly how annoying it was.  We worked through it and I have learned that there is a tomorrow and if there isn’t a tomorrow, then would you rather have your arse in the chair doing code work or spend that time with the people you care about?

Yes, you absolutely have to work on your business, but do not overlook the business of handling your family.

Everyone needs someone to talk to about what you are doing, where you are going, and how you will get there.  My wife and I talk almost nightly regarding the business, well, mainly I talk and she listens.  However, that listening is such a tremendous help for me, it transforms my day into something magical (used without the permission of Disney).  As I continue to write, one topic is the often ups and downs or rollercoaster feelings you have as you do a start up.  My wife is the center point for me.  She keeps me balanced, and handles all the family things, like doctor appointments for the kids.  Without the understanding of my wife, I 100% believe we would not be succeeding.

How did I overcome this?  I hired a few people to help with the day to day stuff so I can concentrate on steering the ship.  I am fortunate that I am able to have a few people that I trust and have the skills I am looking for.

This blog post is dedicated to my wife and life partner on this journey.  Thank you for being sun in my solar system.

Be good to yourself and the ones you love, till next blog post… out